The basic tenet of Islamic Family System is to build harmonious life between wife and her husband and it remains to be rationale in order to help community get rid of most of the sins that men get in to very frequently if they lack proper life system.
Marriage
The principle ingredients of marriage have been placed in men and women in the form of attraction, love, affection, friendship and kindness and these are arranged according to Almighty Allah's wise will.
"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect" (Qur'an- 30: 21).
In Islamic family system the action of choosing a spouse is recommended and it has been considered to be of great value. If being unmarried might lead one to commit sins, he must go for getting married according to Islamic marriage system so as to avoid further difficulties for both his life and community as a whole. Expenses in getting married had not been concerned in Islam, because, Islam encouraged marriage not only as a tool for men's satisfactory life, but also as a tool to avoid committing sins.
Prophet Muhammad (Peace and Blessing of Allah upon him) teaches :Prophet Muhammad (PBH) said: Oh youngsters. those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting evil glances) and preserves one from immorality; but he who cannot afford It should observe fast for it is a means of controlling the sexual desire (Sahîh Muslim- H. No- 2486).
This Hadîth describes the basic view of Islam towards marriage. It is an illuminating lesson for those who perceive life to enjoy the way they like. Europeans, to get away from busy life lines of tight works and corporate living structures, find Resorts as last resorts for enjoying life with whoever they find there. There are world famous religious masters who attract people lacking peace in mind from around the world encouraging them to get involved with any temporary life partner they find in the campaign place. All these trends show the extent the social attitude worsened regardless of the social systems they belong to. Islam instructs men to get married in order to enjoy the life, to get rid of sins that are very likely to be committed being unmarried, save the community from further worsening conditions and to copulate and reproduce the better society of morally addressed.
Islam instructs that marriage should satisfy you, enable you to enjoy the life and help you get rid of sins. But, why people around the world, even a large number of Muslims can't enjoy the life with spouses and then seek alternatives? Why do they commit a number of sins that create social troubles like STDs (Sexually transmitted diseases) and subsequently impact the whole society? Either they have not married in the way Islam instructed or did not value it the way it should. Their minds may be already spoiled with cultural, societal and political circumstances that have since long been turned to be increasingly blemished.
Marriage is most relevant in a sound family system as it can bring about a better environment of peace and joyful life. Those who lack peaceful life can be well benefited with blessed life and joyful mental state being away from stresses and strains only if they turn to the valuable lessons of Islamic family system and recapitulate those valuable instructions as it is.
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